“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Carl W. Buechner
We wish you and your family the best during this Holiday Season.
In his book “Succession Are You Ready?”, Marshall Goldsmith tells the following story.
I was having dinner with one of the top officers in the U.S. Army. At the table were seven newly minted generals. The senior officer laughed as he looked at their shiny new stars. As he contemplated finally leaving the military, he reflected back upon his own experience. He smiled as he joked around with the new generals:
“Have you noticed that lately whenever you tell a joke, everyone laughs?
You aren’t that funny!
Have you noticed that lately, whenever you make a comment, people nod in agreement?
You aren’t that smart!
Have you noticed that lately, woman seem to want to have sex with you!
You aren’t that handsome!”
He grew serious, sighed, and continued, “Always remember, they are not saluting you. They are saluting that star on your shoulder – all that it stands for – and all that it has stood for over the years. Never let admiration go to your head. When you quit wearing that star, they won’t be saluting anymore.”
Break Through Leadership
Definition – Differentiation
“It’s a process that requires managers to asses their employees and separate them into three categories in terms of performance: top 20 percent, middle 70, and bottom 10. Then – and this is the key – it requires managers to act on that distinction.”
– Winning, by Jack Welch with Suzy Welch
“Seldom can a person give 100% all day but they better be able to give 100% at some time during the day!”
– John C. Maxwell
50 Additional Opportunities
“Step out of your comfort zone once more each week and create over 50 additional opportunities for excitement, challenge and possibility each year. This is what life’s about.”
— Sam Parker
Make Someone Else’s Success Your Business
” When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”
– Zen Saying
Be a mentor to someone in need of help. For example: Show another team member the steps you took to be successful on some task that he or she is struggling with. This person’s confidence will improve and so will his or her attitude.
– 180 Ways to Build Commitment & Positive Attitudes, by Paul Sims
Discover Your Sweet Spot, The 7 Steps to Create a Life of Success and Significance (New York, New York: Mogan James Publishing, 2014)
It is always neat to read a book written by someone you know personally. That is the case with Discover Your Sweet Spot. I had the privilege to meet Scott Fay several years back so when I received notice of his recent book I signed up to buy an early copy. Scott had crossed my path as one of the early founders of the John Maxwell Team. When a friend got me involved in their certification program, I was fortunate to be a part of the first class, with Scott being not only one of the founders but also a speaker / master of ceremonies.
Scott has an interesting personal story as both a business leader and student of several leadership leaders. He has experienced the ups and downs of life using this experience to turn things around into not only success but significance. What he has learned while being taught and mentored by people like John Maxwell and others has been percolated into his own system which he calls finding your sweet spot. To make it interesting he puts into context by telling real life stories from his own life and well known business and public figures.
Being a system type of person myself. (Appreciating but not always following) Scott places it into three phases; Phase #1 Design Your Leadership Environment, Phase #2 Build your Leadership Environment, Phase #3 Maintain Your Leadership Environment. Each of these is further broken down into two or three steps. Again, a simple system to follow.
Not sure how you typically read books but it fits the three ways I typically use a book.
- Read it through picking up the broad message and as much as I can take in.
- Reading through highlighting and taking notes to pass on to others.
- Skimming through quickly picking up some nuggets to share as resources / references in other work.
I have already had use of it each of the three ways and intend to keep it close to help me on my leadership and life journey. I have also gone on line to pick up a couple of extra copies to use in one of my favorite leadership development activities, to give away to others. I would highly recommend you pick up your own copy.